IN SEARCH OF HAPPINESS AND LOVE

COMPASSION:THE ULTIMATE FLOWERING OF LOVE(BY OSHO)(VIDEO)

2008-06-29T03:53:00.000+05:30

Don�t Be Afraid To Be Happy

2008-06-29T02:25:00.000+05:30

In every moment there is an abundance of emotion. In every moment there is an abundance of choices to be made regarding those emotions.

To be happy is as simple as finding the �something� in that moment that is worth celebrating. Yes, there are moments when there is little to celebrate: the fist smashing against the cheekbone; the bullet ripping through the gut; the fall from the bicycle; the farewell of a dying loved one. Yes, sometimes there is no happiness, no laughter, no celebration in a moment.

That is why it is important that in the OTHER moments something worthy be found! Otherwise there is the risk that the bad moments gain full and gruesome exposure, and the happy moments are put off, ignored and passed by so that they are few. And in the middle are many many gray indifferent moments.

The �happy� moments passed because no one took the time to reveal them.

How do you attain happiness whilst washing the dishes; cleaning the floors; scrubbing the walls? You just CHOOSE it! Can you imagine sitting out on the balcony watching a sunrise and NOT thinking �this is so beautiful�? Can you imagine that first sip of tea and NOT thinking, �ahhhh, this is just perfect�? Can you imagine watching your child play and NOT thinking �you are SO beautiful...my child you take my breath away�?�

Happiness is, however, something that you can also ignore and place in the �unimportant bin�. You decide that tasks must be rushed through and so you do not allow yourself to experience happiness in those moments. You limit happiness to specific prescribed activities or occasions. Why? Why decide that happiness is a luxury you do not deserve?

And why do you decide that you should not appear to be too happy too often?

I know that sometimes people are concerned that if they appear too happy then other people will think they do not take their job, their situation, their life circumstances seriously, or that they do not care about another person�s problems. And so they deliberately limit their �happiness moments� to appease other people.

How unfair it is to yourself to live this way. You deserve to be happy. If another person cannot accept that you are happy, and feel that you should wallow in misery and wail at the world, then that is THEIR issue to deal with, and in reality, you do not help them when you allow them to dictate �through their issue�. It would be better for you to show them that happiness is found in EVERY moment--when one just makes the choice to see it and know it.

When a loved one dies, those left behind feel that they will never be happy again. I understand. But I ask that they remember the person with love and know they are not lost, they are merely no longer in that physical body. They are as alive and vital as they ever were, more so in fact. They do not disappear never to return. They are often present, and often laughing in the room with their loved ones. They laugh, they rejoice, they observe. They are not lost. And so, when the grief has passed, allow yourself to feel their love for you and allow yourself to feel your love for them.

No one dies.

No one ceases to be.

Celebrate the people in your life, their laughter, their sense of humour, their presence.

THIS moment is all there is. Be fully present in THIS moment. Take a moment at the end of the day. Close your eyes and still your thoughts. Just BE. Just EXIST in that moment. That is contentment.

If you cannot step straight into finding happiness in every moment, begin with finding contentment in your moments. And when you have embraced that you will find it easier to embrace happiness.

Happiness exists in EVERY moment. All you need do is sense it. It is not a crime to be happy! It is not a crime to laugh at a bird flying across the sky. It is not a crime to feel happiness and calmness within when the world seems to be in chaos.

When you are happy you lighten your Beingness, and you also lighten the Beingness of people around you. You assist them in feeling happier and more contented. What a wonderful gift to give someone!

Heavy emotions weigh you down and pull you down. Lighter emotions lift you up. And the presence of those emotions in your life is not haphazard, it is not something that is controlled by other people. It is something YOU choose. It is something YOU control. But NEVER at the expense of another person. You cannot say �if YOU do this I will be happy�. It does not work that way. Your happiness is not controlled by outside forces or other people. It is you and your own choices that decide whether you will find happiness in that moment or not.

To be happy on the inside is not only better for you mentally, but also physically and emotionally, and the effect that ripples from you is of great benefit to those around you.

What is the best thing you can give to your loved ones? Teach them to find happiness in everything, teach them to NOT postpone happiness. Teach them to fully experience life. Teach them by example.

For too long people have allowed themselves to be tossed this way and that by the emotional waves of humanity. It is time to make your own choice for happiness, love and for calmness, and to accept that as YOUR responsibility.

Do not be afraid to be happy.

By Robin M Speed

HAPPINESS IS A STATE OF THE MIND

2008-06-29T02:01:00.000+05:30

Happiness is a state of the mind. The dictionary definition is "feelings of joy and pleasure mingled togetherâ€. A feeling of happiness is more than just an experience of joy or pleasure. It is a state of mind where the individual feels that â€œlife is goodâ€.

This state of mind can be induced by many means â€“ some result in short term happiness while others result in long lasting happiness. One way of inducing long lasting happiness and bliss is meditation. For a busy person, a more practical way to becoming happier is to make steady progress towards meaningful goals.Even though this seems simple, it really is a very powerful technique to attain a state of long lasting happiness. The goals may vary from individual to individual, but for everyone happiness comes from merely making steady progress towards goals that are meaningful to them. The key is that goals have to be meaningful to you. Progress towards goals set by some one else will not bring happiness (unless you too desire the same goals).

There should be a balance in your goals to ensure that the prerequisites of happiness are fulfilled. These prerequisites include good health, sufficient income to meet basic needs, affection, some productive work or activity, defined and achievable goals and good attitude. All the money in the world will not make you happy if you ignore your health or have bad relationships. Also you must try to remove the causes of unhappiness from your life. These causes are - lack of any of the prerequisites for happiness, failure to achieve goals, envy, relationship problems, loneliness and fear of the opinion of others.

Studies have shown that a number of factors contribute to sustained happiness. Some of these are

Good self esteem
Feeling of control over oneâ€™s life
Supportive and warm relationships (marriage/friendship )
Satisfying work
Enjoyable leisure activities
Good attitude
Good Health
Moderation in everything
Impersonal interests

Thus a very effective process of becoming happier is to set goals for improvement in each one of these areas, develop a plan of action, start executing on the plan, and then periodically review the progress towards these goals.

Happiness Strategy:7 Steps to Becoming a Happier Person

2008-06-29T00:24:00.003+05:30

1. Don't Worry, Choose Happy
First, make a decision to be happy.Then you can select the strategies to help you.The remaining strategies are the sort of things psychologists suggest.

2. Cultivate Gratitude
It can dispel bitterness and despair.

3. Foster Forgiveness
Grudges can affect physical and mental health and ruminating is stressful.

4. Counteract Negative Thoughts and Feelings
Meditation, rhythmic breathing, yoga, or relaxation techniques as well as learning to identify and dispute thoughts of inadequacy and helplessness.

5. Remember, Money Can't Buy Happiness

Personal incomes in the US have doubled over the past half-century, yet people are no happier.
Spending money on life experiences (doing) makes people happier than spending money on possessions.

6. Foster Friendship
An Australian study found people over 70 with reach friendship network enjoyed greater longevity.

7. Engage in meaningful Activities
Do more of what means more to get more out of life.

Lines on Love

2008-06-28T21:32:00.000+05:30

Love is the ultimate truth of life.
Love is God and God is love.
Love never dies.
Love is not bound by any religion, caste or creed.
Love is not blind, it sees, but it doesn't mind
Love is the feeling of not knowing what to say when everything in your head is telling you what to say.
Love is crazy and blind but I never mind because I am just in love
One can buy sex but cannot buy love
Out of all the guys in the world, Why did my heart choose you.Baby,I love you , but you don't have a clue.
Roses Are Red Violets Are Blue I Love You.Do You Love Me Too?
She surrender her hand on my palm and I didnt care because I know she was in love with me
The experience of Love gives you joy and happiness.
Three things must in life. love, sorry and smile. Love you need to live, sorry you need to stay, smile you need to pay.
When you have a smile without any reason than you are in love.
You are always in my dreams and I cant stop thinking about you because I am in love.
You dont meet each other but still can feel each other that means you are in love.

WHAT LOVE MEANS TO 4-8 YEAR OLD...

2008-06-24T07:23:00.000+05:30

Slow down for three minutes to read this. It is so worth it. Touching words from the mouth of babes.

A group of professional people posed this question to a group of 4 to 8 year-olds, 'What does love mean?'

The answers they got were broader and deeper than anyone could have imagined See what you think:

'When my grandmother got arthritis, she couldn't bend over and paint her toenails anymore.

So my grandfather does it for her all the time, even when his hands got arthritis too. That's love.'

Rebecca- age 8

'When someone loves you, the way they say your name is different.

You just know that your name is safe in their mouth.'

Billy - age 4

'Love is when a girl puts on perfume and a boy puts on shaving cologne and they go out and smell each other.'

Karl - age 5

'Love is when you go out to eat and give somebody most of your French fries without making them give you any of theirs.'

Chrissy - age 6

'Love is what makes you smile when you're tired.'

Terri - age 4

'Love is when my mommy makes coffee for my daddy and she takes a sip before giving it to him, to make sure the taste is OK.'

Danny - age 7

'Love is when you kiss all the time. Then when you get tired of kissing, you still want to be together and you talk more.

My Mommy and Daddy are like that. They look gross when they kiss'

Emily - age 8

'Love is what's in the room with you at Christmas if you stop opening presents and listen.'

Bobby - age 7 (Wow!)

'If you want to learn to love better, you should start with a friend who you hate,'

Nikka - age 6

(we need a few million more Nikka's on this planet)

'Love is when you tell a guy you like his shirt, then he wears it everyday.'

Noelle - age 7

'Love is like a little old woman and a little old man who are still friends even after they know each other so well.'

Tommy - age 6

'During my piano recital, I was on a stage and I was scared. I looked at all the people watching me and saw my daddy waving and smiling.

He was the only one doing that. I wasn't scared anymore.'

Cindy - age 8

'My mommy loves me more than anybody

You don't see anyone else kissing me to sleep at night.'

Clare - age 6

'Love is when Mommy gives Daddy the best piece of chicken.'

Elaine-age 5

'Love is when Mommy sees Daddy smelly and sweaty and still says he is handsomer than Robert Redford.'

Chris - age 7

'Love is when your puppy licks your face even after you left him alone all day.'

Mary Ann - age 4

'I know my older sister loves me because she gives me all her old clothes and has to go out and buy new ones.'

Lauren - age 4

'When you love somebody, your eyelashes go up and down and little stars come out of you.' (what an image)

Karen - age 7

'You really shouldn't say 'I love you' unless you mean it. But if you mean it, you should say it a lot. People forget.'

Jessica - age 8

And the final one

The winner was a four year old child whose next door neighbor was an elderly gentleman who had recently lost his wife.

Upon seeing the man cry, the little boy went into the old gentleman's yard, climbed onto his lap, and just sat there.

When his Mother asked what he had said to the neighbor, the little boy said,

'Nothing, I just helped him cry'

When there is nothing left but God, that is when you find out that God is all you need. Take 60 seconds and give this a shot! All you do is simply say the following small prayer for the person who sent you this.

Heavenly Father, please bless all my friends in whatever it is that You know they may be needing this day! And may their life be full of Your peace, prosperity and power as he/she seeks to have a closer relationship with You. Amen.

LOVE

2008-06-24T06:29:00.002+05:30

Love, like a tree,
sends its roots down deep
so when the storms of life abound
and the winds of adversity blow,
it shakes and bends
and goes with the flow
but doesn't break or fall.
And during times of drought
it drives its roots down deeper
so whatever comes and goes–
summer, winter, spring or fall,
the good times and the bad–
it stands the test of all.
Dick Innes

LIVE YOUR LOVE

2008-06-22T00:57:00.001+05:30

Live Your Love

by Steve Goodier

Imagine four Army chaplains during an icy storm at sea; four men in uniform holding hands as they gaze over the rail of their sinking vessel. They are watching lifeboats pulling away from their reeling ship, the U.S. transport Dorchester. The story of these chaplains is a remarkable account of love and sacrifice.

The scene takes place February 3, 1943, off the southern tip of Greenland. The winter night covers the ship like a blanket. Most of the 909 aboard ship are asleep below the decks.

Suddenly the Dorchester jerks and shudders. A German torpedo has smashed through her starboard side! In a raging torrent, the sea spurts through the gaping wound. The Dorchester has been dealt a mortal blow. She is sinking.

An order is given to abandon ship. Aboard the dying vessel, men -- many of them injured -- search frantically for life jackets. Some stand in shock, not knowing how to react to the catastrophe.

Amidst the chaos stand four pillars of strength, four Army chaplains: George L. Fox, Methodist; Alexander Goode, Jewish; Clark V. Poling, Reformed; and John P. Washington, Roman Catholic. They calm the panic-stricken, help the confused search for life jackets and aid the soldiers into the lifeboats swinging out from the tilting deck.

When no more jackets can be found, each chaplain takes off his own and straps it onto a soldier who has none. The lifeboats pull slowly away from the doomed vessel. Only 299 will finally survive this night.

As the Dorchester slides beneath the icy water, some can see the four chaplains, hand in hand, praying to the God of them all. The chaplains' different theological opinions did not seem to matter much on a sinking ship. All that mattered was that, at a time of crisis, they lived their love. Yet even for us, every day in lesser ways, I suspect that's all that ever matters.

SUCCESS AND HAPPINESS WITHOUT MUCH MONEY

2008-06-21T23:00:00.001+05:30

How would you know if you’ve lived a successful and happy life if you don’t have a lot of money or stuff to show for it?

If you've done your best, made amends where you didn't do your best, made regular progress with regard to your interests, your social and family interactions, your education, and your career choice, then you're well on your way if not already there.

Success and happiness don’t exist in a void. It is often the very trials and tribulations we blame for our unhappiness and failures that gives us the experience, strength, and skills that lead to happiness and success.

Many studies have concluded it isn't money that makes us happy. Depending on your family size, an annual income of $50,000 is all that's needed to leave a person feeling like they can make ends meet. Anything over that is relative to the amount of debt they've incurred (spending habits) and what they're filling their life with (instead of their hearts and minds).

Smile at others when you can (no one expects you to keep a bluebird on your shoulder all the time), perform random acts of kindness, be grateful for what you have (no matter how little you have - else you'll never be grateful no matter how much you have), eat right, move around on a daily basis, keep up with friends and family, and stay on top of your responsibilities (your bills - not someone else's).

Success is what you’ve become. Happiness is how you feel about your success. Neither of these has to do with money, but instead personal accomplishment.

Written by Diana Hartman

Love Can Move Mountains

2008-06-21T00:14:00.001+05:30

There ain't a dream that don't
Have a chance
To come true now
It just takes a little faith baby
Anything that we want to do
We can do now
There ain't nothing in our way baby
Nothing our love couldn't raise above
We can get through the night
We can get to the light
Long as we got our love to
Light the way
With a little faith
Just a little trust
If you believe in love
Love can move mountains
Believe in your heart
And feel, feel it in your soul
And love baby love can
Move mountains
Ocean deep and mountains high
They can't stop us
Because love is on our side baby
We can reach the heavens and
Touch the sky
Just believe it, believe in you and I baby
If we got love that is strong enough
We can do anything, make it
through anything
'Coz through it all love will always
Find a way
With a little faith, , ,
You believe in me
I'll believe in you
If we believe in each other
Nothing we can't do
If we got love that's strong enough
Love will find a way
With a little faith
--sung by Celine Dion, written by Diane Warren

The Key to Happiness

2008-06-21T00:08:00.001+05:30

The key to happiness
belongs to everyone on earth
Who recognizes simple things
as treasures of great worth --

The changing of the seasons,
the rising of the moon,
Golden restful hours
on a lazy afternoon,
The music found in laughter,
the beauty found in truth,
The wrinkled eyes of wisdom,
the innocence of youth...

Dreams the heart has woven,
letting go of cares,
Reaching out, and helping out,
and countless answered prayers,
The loving bonds of family ties,
and understanding friends,
The chance to make a difference,
the will to make amends,
Having someone's hand to hold,
the promise each day brings --
The key to happiness is found
in very simple things.

---Emily Matthews

Love Is

2008-06-20T23:56:00.001+05:30

To Love is to live and be who you are. To Love is to experience life at its fullest. To Love is to know that Love is all there is. when you know that Love is all there is, then you will truly understand and know who you are and be who you are, unlocking the experience of life in the joyful abundance that has always been yours.Love is the key.

SOME PRIMARI ATTRIBUTES OF HAPPINESS

2008-06-20T04:24:00.002+05:30

Independent Inter-dependence

Integrated Thinking

Live Consciously

Self-responsible

Gratefulness

Dynamic

Persistent

Courageous

Open Flexibility

Emotional Acceptance

THE SECRET LAW OF LOVE:THOUGHTS,FEELINGS AND ATTRACTION(VIDEOS)

2008-06-19T02:20:00.002+05:30

LOVE AND HAPPINESS

2008-06-18T05:44:00.001+05:30

Love and Happiness: Contentment is the Kernel of Happiness

By Sukhvinder Singh

Kabir highlighted the importance of santosh or contentment in our lives. Indian culture teaches us to be content in all situations. But today, we are not happy with the grades our child gets, our pay packet, our spouse, or our ageing parents. Much of the stress in our lives is the result of our inability to be content with what we have.

The natural and healthy growth of children is hampered by unreasonable expectations of parents. A child is a gift of God and should be allowed to grow like a sapling. All saplings do not grow to the same height, nor do they produce flowers of equal size and shape. Like a mountain stream, a child must be allowed to chart her own course in life. Any attempt to alter or modify her natural course would curtail spontaneity. It is better to allow one's child to be, and let her enjoy life rather than coerce her to do what she does not like.

Materialism begets needless unhappiness. The failure to live within one's means leads to unprecedented corruption in all walks of life. Unlimited income, more often than not, leads to indulgence and ill-health, and there can be no happiness in the absence of good health. It is essential that an individual plans his expenditure and is satisfied with his income. A portion of one's income must be set aside for charity to help the less privileged. It is not without reason that charity is given a place of prominence in all religions. Contentment and charity go hand-in-hand.

Nowadays, marriages increasingly end in acrimony and divorce. Earlier, couples were content; they made space for each other, perhaps also because of the joint family tradition. To forge a successful relationship, it is essential to accept perceived shortcomings of a spouse and work together towards self-improvement by helping each other in times of distress. By concentrating on the good qualities of one's partner, one can rescue a floundering relationship.

Following the disintegration of the joint family, loneliness in old age has become a cause for concern. Loneliness becomes doubly painful after loss of a life partner in old age. But upon some reflection, it would appear that loneliness can be translated into solitude. A number of people, the young included, take to the hills in search of solitude.

Therefore, it is important to accept loneliness and turn it into solitude instead of entertaining expectations from children. The renowned sufi poet Bulle Shah asked his spiritual guide why he was unable to concentrate on anything. The latter who was planting onion saplings, uprooting them from one place only to plant them again in another place, said "Bulleya man da ki samjhauna edhron putna odhar launa "(Bulleya, it is only a question of making your mind understand, shifting it from one issue to another.) In our old age we must shift our focus from our children to cultivate other interests such as the study of scriptures, yoga, travelling, pranayama and community service. One should prepare for this situation in life by taking occasional breaks from family ties even before old age comes upon us.

Accepting the will of God (Bhagwan ki marzi) is another important aspect of Indian tradition. It is this spirit which helps the poorest of the poor to live cheerfully. To be content with one's lot and accept the will of God in difficult times helps in the attainment of peace and happiness. A lot of our discontent can be traced to the habit of making comparisons. Comparing one's income, child or spouse with others leads to unhappiness. Once we learn to be content, we can be happy and stress-free. Greed, and not need, causes discontent. A need can be fulfilled, greed never.

LOVE IS THE ANSWER TO HAPPINESS

2008-06-18T05:16:00.001+05:30

By Salim Rana

The thesis of this discourse is this: love is the answer to happiness.

Love, the most powerful force in creation, is also the most misunderstood.

It is misunderstood because of the context with which it arises: that of relationship. All relationships imply love, either an offering of it or a withdrawal of it. Thus, our understanding of love is conditioned by varying degrees of attachment and aversion. And because of this, there is an element of self-protection that is projected outwardly and becomes control.

Thus, our understanding of love is completely contaminated by all the associations that arise from it.

So what we have then is conditional love; love that is allowed if certain conditions are met.

In truth, none of this is really love, just as a delicious meal, sprinkled with some mud cannot be said to be appetizing any longer.

Love, real love, is acceptance. That is all it is. Simply accepting what is. From that acceptance flows giving and caring, nurturing and compassion.

When you see a beautiful flower wet with dew, you feel an out-flowing force from your heart. This emotion is love. It is a complete acceptance of the flower. You may call it beauty or appreciation, but it is really love.

A mother, seeing her child sleeping peacefully, feels love. This is a pure acceptance of the being of the other. Of course, when the child is awake, shouting, crying, and arguing, expressing it's being in a radical way, breaking some social convention of one sort or another, the mother's love is still there, but now it is mixed up with other emotions, anger, confusion, embarrassment. Thus, control is now exerted. A tension visits the relationship and the love that is implied in it is clouded over, at the heart of which are various degrees of non-acceptance.

When the love is uninterrupted, as in the still flower or the sleeping child, it is pure. It is spontaneous. When conditions are imposed, the love becomes something else, not quite definable, but definitely not as spontaneous, pure, and free.

What made Mother Teresa a lover of life? She accepted what was before her. Poverty, disease, and distressing situations. Her love then moved her to give, and the giving was to provide relief to the other.

Love that has conditions, that exerts control to bring the other into alignment with one's belief systems is not real love. There may be elements of love in it, but it is tarnished with some desire for egoic gain. The other must love back. The other must be appreciative. The other must return something to us.

Philosophers, poets, and spiritual people have long believed that love is the central force that holds the universe together. The physical union of love creates children. The emotional union of love creates families and nations. The intellectual union of love creates ideas, discoveries, and inventions. Philosophically, one can even say that the union of subatomic elements in relationship to each other or of planetary bodies in relationship to each other is part of that harmonious, blending, accepting energy that we call love.

Love does not necessarily mean approval. One cannot truly love something despicable. But love does mean acceptance. And once there is acceptance, there is understanding and insight, and if change is necessary for well-being, it is done with wisdom, not reactive emotion.

If human beings were committed to studying love and applying it, the entire planet would change rapidly, and instead of our continued creation of chaos, harmony and cooperation would occur. All sorts of wonderful prospering circumstances for the well-being of all life would emerge.

But as a species, we associate contention with intelligence and survival, and as long as we prefer exclusion to inclusion, we will continue to wreck our own lives and the world in general with our confused thoughts, feelings, and behavior.

When we begin an inquiry into love, then the journey to right living can be said to begin. What is right living? That which provides well-being for self and other. When well-being is high, there is a feeling of safety and acceptance, which creates happiness, a sense that all is well, good, and true and that we need not guard against sorrow.

The summum bonum of all life is happiness. It is the ultimate motive, the end of all striving. Yet this happiness does not come uninvited. It feels invited when love is present.

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HAPPINESS

2008-06-18T03:07:00.001+05:30

Happiness
With compliments of Brahma Kumaris Raja Yoga Centre

This is the art of living, the aim and object of our existence. Without happiness, life is dry and meaningless. With happiness, life immediately becomes fulfilled and wonderful. Happy people keep themselves happy because they know how they tick, they know the little ways to appreciate themselves and to see the humour and magic in each moment. Those people who are a bit heavy, who take life too seriously, may lose their happiness also.

When we wonder what we are doing sometimes, what we are pursuing or searching for, it is helpful to just ask, "Well, will this bring me happiness?" Because the ultimate search of all human beings, the ultimate goal in life is to be happy. We purse this goal in all manner of ways, whether it be through leisure, careers, wealth, relationships or whatever the means, the tendency of the soul is towards being happy.

Another good question to ask is "Why do we lose our happiness?" What makes us take the wrong path and lose our inner state of buoyancy? When we pursue limited, superficial or false goals, it is very easy to lose happiness. Firstly, because we are not being true to the self, and secondly, because we may build up false expectations that are not met through our goals and activities. Similarly, we expect happiness to come from the outside, from relationships, from food, from possessions, from travel. Yes, these are forms of happiness, however limited, yet they are only temporary.

The soul is innately happy and in its most powerful state has a good stock of happiness-We spend the power of happiness in much the same way that we spend other thins, whether it be time, energy or money. We lose happiness when we contravene the spiritual and natural laws.

The repercussions of anger, attachment, greed, ego and desire are that we lose our peace and happiness. The more that we are driven by these forces, then the more we will spend the stock of happiness.

How is it possible to increase the stock of happiness? Firstly, be true to the self, know the self and be the self. Then understand what brings happiness to one's self, it is positive thinking, it is working and fulfilling worldly responsibilities, it is doing something creative? Once we have understood the happiness that comes from within and as a result of the manner in which we conduct ourselves and our lives, then it is possible to understand how to share that happiness with others. Benefiting the self on a spiritual level will definitely bring internal happiness, resolving past karma, mending broken relationships, making amends for the past - living according to the divine laws of karma - these all bring a measure of self respect and happiness.

Seeing the best in ourselves and in others is also a form of happiness. Good wishes and pleasant feelings towards other people gives them the life of happiness, but we need to feel these feelings of ourselves first. Then we can share what we have and give this to others. Increasing the happiness of others brings happiness to the self, but this cannot be an escape - that is, it is not a substitute for creating internal happiness. People with a naturally happy disposition are sunny and pleasant to be around. They will attract others with their positive attitude and uplift the mood of anybody who is feeling a bit low. In the same way, the genuine laughter that comes from true happiness is infectious and brings happiness to all.

Just remember, don't worry, by happy!

FORMULA FOR HEALTH AND HAPPINESS

2008-06-18T03:01:00.001+05:30

One thing for everyone to understand is that foundation of happiness is robust health. It’s an open secret most people do not give too much consideration too. Let us imagine a situation where we are professionally or academically successful, our spouse [or spice ] are doing all right, children seem to be on track and are focusing their energy where they should, parents are taken are of - everything sounds in place and in control.

No tiff with the boss, no malice brewing behind our backs, nothing… but we have this persistent headache for lack of sleep over past few days that wouldn’t go away even with a painkillers. It’s nothing. Just a headache but is enough to take our minds off everything and the pain frustrates us. We lose temper, the feeling reflects in our work and nothing sounds good. We don’t want to eat, talk, nothing. Just want to be left alone.

And I am talking about a simple headache not some potentially dangerous symptom! Now, imagine a situation where almost nothing is going right but health-wise nothing is wrong. At such a time we always feel we can manage the situation. We are in a better position to think logically and patiently - however the situation demands. In a healthy body resides a healthy mind and that’s the secret!

And to keep your body healthy you need to follow a certain routine. And most of us know what constitutes the right routine without having to look up the book. Then what is it taking us so long to follow it? Is it not about eating right, exercising, keeping away from smoking and alcohol? Making time for a long drive with friends, some rain on the roof, some music in the air, a bit of sunshine. It’s all part of the Health and Happiness package deal. Really.

I am not wavering from the topic. All I am trying to say is be happy. Eat healthy. Do what it takes to be at peace. And success will follow. If you spread positive energy, positive energy will come back to you. And this energy will lead to success and happiness. And good health is the key. If you are feeling physically fit, you will be mentally fit. And we all know mental fitness can do miracles. You have to understand and be convinced about how one thing affects the other. Only then you will be able to apply it in reality and will see the difference it can make.

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HEALTH IS HAPPINESS

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http://www.pbs.org/kcts/affluenza/escape/action/health.html
Don’t just do something, sit there! Resist the urge to bustle and putz. Give yourself frequent chances to actually hear yourself think, and to enjoy your surroundings.
Walk, don’t run. A mile of walking burns about as many calories as a mile of jogging, and slowing down your pace will soothe your psyche.
Prevention is the cheapest and best health insurance. Get an annual checkup (even frugal fanatics agree this is worth the $$). Take care of your body by eating and sleeping right, and stop smoking.
Stop equating the amount of fun and pleasure you get with the amount of money you spend to get it. Sit down and make a list of 25 things you like to do that cost little or no money, and keep it where you can see it every day.
Understand and practice the economy of laziness. Give in when you’re tempted to NOT put up Christmas lights, NOT cook like Martha Stewart, NOT keep your car clean and polished, NOT have a weed- and bug-free lawn.
The next time you find yourself drawn to the mall to shop for more stuff, call or write a friend you’ve lost touch with instead. You’ll conserve money and friendships.
Instead of spending your time and energy buying and taking care of stuff, volunteer to feed the hungry, care for the suffering, visit the lonely or mentor a child.
Be happy with what you have. If you make a habit of thinking in terms of what you have, rather than what you don’t, you may well find that you’ve got enough.

I LOVE YOU

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I love you

I just wanted to tell you

that I love you

As simple as that...

In loving you,

I have learned

that the greatest gift in life

is the love you give back to me

As simple as that,

because i love only you.

To love someone means realizing that

the other person is not perfect...putting emphasis

on what you love, and accepting that person for the individual they are.

Each day there is something to do,

somewhere to go...

There are calls to be made,

people to see...

But on even the busiest day,

the most important thing of all

is telling you I love you...!

LOVE

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when u wait for someone for few minutes

its need

for few hours its

trust

for few weeks its

friendship

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be positive to wait when u know the person

will not come,� its

love....

WAYS TO PRACTICE LOVE:

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Accept people as they are, without judgement
Speak kind words of encouragement
Care enough to set clear boundaries for yourself and your children
Love people the most when they don't "deserve" it
Discipline yourself to think loving thoughts
Show love through acts of kindness and community service
Avoid viewing hatred and violence in the media
Notice the many loving acts others perform each day
Put the good of the whole community above self-interest
Connect with the Divine Source of Love

The Quest for Happiness

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Happiness is the most wanted thing in the world and yet the hardest thing to find. The search is endless and bounds no place and time.

The level of man’s longing for happiness becomes higher and higher as the standard of living also increases. The first step towards happiness leads to another step, and then to another until a progression of steps is made transgressing the three dimensions of time - the past, the present, and the future. Like love, happiness is a vague concept. Based on the dictionaries, happiness is parallel to contentment. However, contentment is a thing that does not actually exist because man has never been contended all his life. His success for having attained a particular end always paves way to the urge to meet a higher end.

Epicurus, an Athenian philosopher, suggested that in order for man to achieve happiness, he should give up all the complexities of life, like wealth, fame and power, and go back to basics when the things that only matter are those necessary for pure biological subsistence, friends, freedom and analyzed life.

However, it is hard to persuade man to renounce life’s worldly pleasures. If man will relinquish his desire to aspire for the better, progress will be hampered and everything will be doomed in complete stagnation. Time moves forward and progress has been the norm. There must be a machine that will turn back time. However, by the time that man may have reached the basics, time will again start to tick and it will not be practical to do the same process over again.

Happiness might seem to be very far, but man’s journey towards it endures. There are only three steps to perfect the quest for happiness.

FIRST, be aware that you are a participant in the universal search. Every person regardless of age, sex, gender, religion, citizenship, ethnicity, talents, abilities and physical condition, partakes in the worldwide hunt for happiness. Look around you, you will see other people walking. Beside you are people who are almost at the same situation you are in; you are all walking at the same pace. Others might speed up and become a few steps ahead. Do not fret; rather, cheer up for them and persevere.

On the other hand, if you’ve been blessed and have gone farther than your fellows, do not brag; rather, assist those who stagger. While you proceed, also look at the people in front of you. They are those who started the walk much earlier and are now closer to happiness. Make them your role model. Analyze the strategies they used and learn from their mistakes.

Also look at the people behind you. They are those who started the walk later. These people are the neophytes and they look up at you as their guide. Show them a good example. Let your works touch their soul to keep them going.

SECOND, accept that the quest for happiness is never-ending. Do not race with time, but also do not lag behind. Savor the moment and pursue the right level of happiness that is achievable at your age.

The level of happiness varies from individual to individual. When babies crave for happiness, they normally cry and this necessity can simply be satisfied by attending to their basic needs such as a gentle pat, cuddling, words of assurance, simple entertainment or just one’s mere presence.

On the other hand, for adults, happiness is at a much superior level. Adults have infinite list of needs and wants, ranging from life’s essentials to intimacy to a well-defined career path. Adulthood is the busiest stage of man’s existence and oftentimes causes man a lot of emotional turbulence.

Two other crucial stages in man’s existence are adolescence and middle age. These stages are the most dramatic, stressful, and overwhelming segment of man’s life. It is in the middle-age period that man prepares for his retirement; it is the period when most of his dreams have been fulfilled. By the time he reached old age, his journey in pursuit of happiness may have already ended. However, man’s desire for happiness does not end at old age; the longing continues as long as he lives.

LASTLY, love yourself. Take good care of your health - physical, mental, and emotional. Choose a healthy lifestyle so that you will live longer and stronger. In this way, you will have more time and capability to do the things that you want. Do not pressure yourself too much. Take it easy, enjoy life, and appreciate even the little things that you achieved, but do not stop striving for the better. Reward yourself for every work well done. The reward does not have to be expensive, it might be simple and it may not be a material thing.

Most importantly, share your love to other people. As James M. Barrie said, “Let no one who loves be called altogether unhappy. Even love unreturned has its rainbow.”

These are the only steps you need to be happy.

David Miller

David is Patric Chan's in-house writer for www.successandlife.com.

The Beauty of Love

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The question is asked,

"Is there anything more beautiful in life

than a boy and a girl clasping clean hands

and pure hearts in the path of marriage?

Can there be anything more beautiful than young love?"

And the answer is given.

"Yes, there is a more beautiful thing.

It is the spectacle of an old man and an old woman

finishing their journey together on that path.

Their hands are gnarled, but still clasped;

their faces are seamed, but still radiant;

their hearts are physically bowed and tired,

but still strong with love and devotion for one another.

Yes, there is a more beautiful thing than young love.

SOME INTERPRETATIONS TO A HAPPIER LIFE

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SOME INTERPREATATIONS TO A HAPPIER LIFE

Stress affects all of us and can show its manifestations in various forms. We cannot avoid it altogether, but what we can do is follow some of these hints to reduce stress from our lives. Here is a list of ten quotations and how we can interpret these to experience a happier and stress free tomorrow.

1) Cry a river; build a bridge; get over it.

Let go of past failures, sadness and people whom we remember but who no longer care for us. This sounds so easy but its easier said than done. We all have gone through our share of heartaches and sadness. But when we constantly remember the pain and suffering we had endured, we are allowing that sadness to gain an upper hand over us. What we must realize is that what has happened, has happened. Its over and done with. People change and times change. Moving on in life is very difficult but it’s the first constructive step to a better you.

2) Everything happens in its own time.

There are things that we do and expect to be rewarded for which does not happen. In offices, there might be a promotion that we might have wanted, a high score on a test, or a job offer that we were sure that was to be given to us that never worked out. At such times we lose perspective and blame our luck and become despondent. We need to realize that there is a time for everything that happens in our lives. And when the appropriate time comes, things will start working the way they were supposed to work.

3) You are the only person who can make yourself happy.

Think of “your” happiness, too, and be kind to yourself. In life, all of us have goals and ambitions. But in the pursuit of those goals, we lose sight of the bigger picture that we are doing these things to make ourselves happy. This is seen especially in the case of mothers who are doing so many things for their kids and family that they don’t remember when the last time was that they did something for their own happiness.

It happens to all of us. Be more gentle with yourself. Make yourself happy, and that can be done in so many ways. Treat yourself to some ice cream, buy a book that you were dying to read, spend a day lolling in the bed doing nothing. We deserve it and so do our bodies.

4) Laughter is the best tranquilizer with no side effects.

Laugh each and every day of your life. Humorous situations happen to us every single day. Whether you choose to enjoy the moment or not is your decision. There are so many excuses in our day-to-day life to have a good laugh. All we need to do is just look at the lighter side of life and enjoy the moment. When you laugh, don’t think whether people are watching you or how much you laugh. It’s their problem that they cannot find the humor in the situation that you have found.

5) Happiness is a journey, not a destination.

As we make our journey through life, we have so many things to savor and experience. There is no such thing as instant happiness or happiness that can be found somewhere. Live your life each day, the same way you would climb a mountain. An occasional glance towards the summit keeps the goal in mind, but many beautiful scenes are to be observed from each new vantage point.

6) Do today what others won’t so you can live tomorrow like others can’t.

So many times we are faced with duties and work that we are not happy doing or performing. In those times, instead of hating or shirking from that work, we can try and make use of the thought that somehow, whatever we are doing will prove beneficial to us one day or another. Maybe the results won’t be seen tomorrow, but surely we will benefit because we did something that no one was willing to do. An example would be the people who started companies which are million dollar establishments today. They dared to venture and put their money in something that their colleagues would not have been willing to do, and today their work is paying off rich dividends.

7) It is never too late to be what you might have become.

There are several factors that cause us to end up doing the work we do. Many of us, at some point of time, would have definitely wanted to make a career change and thought that it’s too late to do it. But the truth is it’s never too late. You can start doing whatever we want to do because it’s your life and your decisions. Think of the people who attend college in their late 60’s and 70’s because they always wanted to do it. Such people are the ones who truly believe in this adage.

Treasure the love you receive; it will survive long after your gold and good health have vanished.

We always seem to cherish our material possessions more than we should. But life can take a lot more from us. Today we might have good health, family love and a good home to go back to. What we forget is that there are so many calamities that can take away all our comforts, but love is something that can never be taken away. We need to be more demonstrative of our love towards others and treat our loved ones with more kindness and affection.

9) The journey of a thousand miles starts with a single step.

Any huge task that needs to be done seems very daunting at first. But if we analyze the task carefully, and do it step-by-step, we will find that things get resolved very quickly and easily. But we need to be bold enough to take the first small step. Once that is done, we just need to proceed with additional small steps towards our goal.

10) Always have something to do, something to love, and something to hope for.

These three things are what will keep the flame burning within all of us. Something to do will keep us busy, something to love will keep us motivated and something to hope for will take us faster towards our goal.

I LOVE YOU FOREVER.....

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I LOVE YOU FOREVER.....

Imagine me and you...I do,

I think about you day and night,

it's only right

To think about the girl you love

and hold her tight

So happy together

If I should call you up,

invest a time

And you say you belong to me

and ease my mind

Imagine how the world could be,

so very fine

So happy together

I can't see me lovin' nobody but you

For all my life

When you're with me,

baby the skies'll be blue

For all my life

Me and you and you and me

No matter how they toss the dice,

it has to be

The only one for me is you,

and you for me

So happy together

Imagine...

me and you...

together forever

our whole life through.

What a wonderful thought it is !

Time to Love

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Once upon a time, there was an island
where all the feelings lived:
Happiness,Sadness, Knowledge,
and all of the others, including Love.
One day it was announced to the
feelings that the island would sink,
so they all prepared their boats and left.
Love was the only one who stayed.
Love wanted to stay with the island until it started sinking.
When Love was almost sinking, he decided to ask for help.
Richness came by Love in a beautiful boat.
Love said,
"Richness, can you take me with you?"
Richness answered,
"No, I can't.. There is a lot of gold and silver in my boat.
There is no place here for you."
Love decided to ask Vanity who was also passing by,
"Vanity, please help me!"
"I can't help you Love.
You are all wet and you may damage my boat," Vanity answered.
Sadness was close by so again
Love asked for help,
"Sadness, let me go with you."
"Oh...Love, I am so sad that I prefer to go alone!"
Happiness passed by Love too, but
she was so happy
that she did not listen when
Love called her!
Suddenly, there was a voice,
"Come Love, I will take you."
It was an elder.
Love became so happy that he even
forgot to ask the elder her name.
When they arrived on dry land,
the elder went on her own way
Love asked Knowledge, another elder, the
name of the elder who had helped him.
"It was Time," answered Knowledge.
"Time? But why did Time help me?" asked Love.
"Because only Time is capable of
understanding how great Love is,"
answered Knowledge.
The moral of this story is:
"Take the time to know what Real Love is"

TRY THESE AND BE HAPPY...!!

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TRY THESE AND BE HAPPY...!!

NEVER CRY FOR ANY RELATION IN LIFE
BECAUSE FOR THE ONE WHOM YOU CRY
DOES NOT DESERVE YOUR TEARS
AND THE ONE WHO DESERVES
WILL NEVER LET YOU CRY.................

TREAT EVERYONE WITH POLITENESS
EVEN THOSE WHO ARE RUDE TO YOU,
NOT BECAUSE THEY ARE NOT NICE
BUT BECAUSE YOU ARE NICE.......................

YOU CAN 'T MAKE SOMEONE LOVE YOU.
ALL YOU CAN DO IS BE SOMEONE
WHO CAN BE LOVED,
THE REST IS UPTO THE PERSON
TO REALIZE YOUR WORTH.....................

NEVER SEARCH YOUR HAPPINESS
IN OTHERS
WHICH WILL MAKE YOU
FEEL ALONE,
RATHER SEARCH IT IN YOURSELF
YOU WILL FEEL HAPPY
EVEN IF YOU ARE LEFT ALONE......................

ALWAYS HAVE
A POSITIVE ATTITUDE IN LIFE.
THERE IS SOMETHING POSITIVE
IN EVERY PERSON.
EVEN A STOPPED WATCH IS RIGHT
TWICE A DAY...................................

HAPPINESS ALWAYS LOOKS SMALL
WHEN WE HOLD IT IN OUR HANDS.
BUT WHEN WE LEARN TO
SHARE IT,
WE REALIZE HOW BIG AND PRECIOUS IT IS !................

FOUR ESSENTIALS FOR HAPPINESS

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You may have a thousand different goals over the course of
your lifetime, but they all will fall into one of four basic
categories. Everything you do is an attempt to enhance the
quality of your life in one or more of these areas.

The first category is your desire for happy relationships.
You want to love and be loved by others. You want to have a
happy, harmonious home life. You want to get along well with
the people around you, and you want to earn the respect of
the people you respect. Your involvement in social and
community affairs results from your desire to have happy
interactions with others and to make a contribution to the
society you live in.

The second category is your desire for interesting and
challenging work. You want to make a good living, of course,
but more than that, you want to really enjoy your occupation
or profession. The very best times of your life are when you
are completely absorbed in your work.

The third category is your desire for financial
independence. You want to be free from worries about money.
You want to have enough money in the bank so that you can
make decisions without counting your pennies. You want to
achieve a certain financial state so that you can retire in
comfort and never have to be concerned about whether or not
you have enough money to support your lifestyle. Financial
independence frees you from poverty and a need to depend
upon others for your livelihood. If you save and invest
regularly throughout your working life, you will eventually
reach the point where you will never have to work again.

The fourth and final category is your desire for good
health, to be free of pain and illness and to have a
continuous flow of energy and feelings of well-being. In
fact, your health is so central to your life that you take
it for granted until something happens to disrupt it.

Peace of mind is essential for every one of these. The
greater your peace of mind, the more relaxed and positive
you are, the less stress you suffer, the better is your
overall health.

The more peace of mind you have, the better are your
relationships, the more optimistic, friendly and confident
you are with everyone in your life. When you feel good about
yourself on the inside, you do your work better and take
more pride in it. You are a better boss and coworker. And
the greater your overall peace of mind, the more likely you
are to earn a good living, save regularly for the future and
ultimately achieve financial independence.

Life is very much a study of attention. Whatever you dwell
upon and think about grows and expands in your life. The
more you pay attention to your relationships, the quality
and quantity of your work, your finances and your health,
the better they will become and the happier you will be.

ACTION EXERCISES

Here are three things you can do immediately to put these
ideas into action.

First, take time on a regular basis to think about what
would make you really happy in each of the four areas.

Second, set specific, measurable goals for improvement in
your relationships, your health, your work and your finances
and write them down.

Third, resolve to do something every day to increase the
quality of some area of your life - and then keep your resolution.

By Brian Tracy

Secrets of Love

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Secrets of Love

The First Secret - The Power Of Thought
***********************************
Love begins with our thoughts. We become what we think about. Loving thoughts create loving experiences and loving relationships. Affirmations can change our beliefs and thoughts about others and ourselves. If we want to love someone, we need to consider their needs and desires. Thinking about your ideal partner will help you recognize her when you meet her.

The Second Secret - The Power Of Respect
************************************
You cannot love anyone or anything unless you first respect them. The first person you need to respect is yourself. To begin to gain self-respect asks yourself, “What do I respect about myself?” To gain respect for others, even those you may dislike, ask yourself “What do I respect about them?”

The Third Secret - The Power Of Giving
**********************************
If you want to receive love, all you have to do is give it! The more love you give, the more you will receive. To love is to give of yourself freely and unconditionally. Practice random acts of kindness. Before committing to a relationship ask not what the other person will be able to give to you, but rather what will you be able to give them. The secret formula of a
happy, lifelong, loving relationship is to always focus on what you can give instead of what you can take.

The Fourth Secret - The Power Of Friendship
***************************************
To find a true love, you must first find a true friend. Love does not consist of gazing into each other’s eyes, but rather looking outward together in the same direction. To love someone completely you must love them for who they are, not what they look like. Friendship is the soil through which love’s seeds grow. If you want to bring love into a relationship, you must first bring friendship.

The Fifth Secret - The Power Of Touch
**********************************
Touch is one of the most powerful expressions of love, breaking down barriers and bonding relationships. Touch changes our physical and emotional states and makes us more receptive to love.

The Sixth Secret - The Power Of Letting Go
*************************************
If you love something, let it free. If it comes back to you it’s yours, if it doesn’t, it never was. Even in a loving relationship, people need their own space. If we want to learn to love, we must first learn to forgive and let go of past hurts and grievances. Love means letting go of our fears, prejudices, egos and conditions. “Today I let go of all my fears, the past
has no power over me - today is the beginning of a new life.”

The Seventh Secret - The Power Of Communication
********************************************
When we learn to communicate openly and honestly, life changes. To love someone is to communicate with them. Let the people you love know that you love them and appreciate them. Never be afraid to say those three magic words: “I Love you.” Never let an opportunity pass to praise someone. Always leave someone you love with a loving word - it could be the last time you see them. If you were about to die but could make telephone calls to the people you loved, who would you call, what would you say and..why are you waiting?

The Eighth Secret - The Power Of Commitment
****************************************
If you want to have love in abundance, you must be committed to it, and that commitment will be reflected in your thoughts and actions. Commitment is the true test of love. If you want to have loving relationships, you must be committed to loving relationships. When you are committed to someone or something, quitting is never an option. Commitment distinguishes a fragile relationship from a strong one.

The Ninth Secret - The Power Of Passion
***********************************
Passion ignites love and keeps it alive. Lasting passion does not come through physical attraction alone; it comes from deep commitment, enthusiasm, interest and excitement. Passion can be recreated by recreating past experiences when you felt passionate. Spontaneity and surprises produce passion. The essence of love and happiness are the same; all we need to do
is to live each day with passion.

The Tenth Secret - The Power Of Trust
*********************************
Trust is essential in all loving relationships. Without it one person becomes suspicious, anxious and fearful and the other person feels wrapped and emotionally suffocated. You cannot love someone completely unless you trust them completely. Act as if your relationship with the person you love will never end. One of the ways you can tell whether a person is right for you is to ask yourself, “Do I trust them completely and unreservedly?” If the answer is “no”, think carefully before making a commitment.

What Is Love?

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One must understand whether "what is love" can be a question which can be answered? Love cannot be a question. For, if it is a question then an answer should be there. If the answer is there, where is it? This question is ancient and an answer should have been found by now! If the answer has been found, the question would have disappeared.
But the question still remains, meaning the answer has not been found. If it has not been found as yet, then what is the certainty that it will be found? Maybe the mind can never find the answer! A single answer, which will please all minds, is not possible for each mind has its own ideas of love. Hence a universal answer is an illusion.
Individual answers are there for love and for this very reason there are arguments about love for each mind will contradict the answer of another mind. This contradiction is normal for each mind lives in a different point in time. Hence "what is love" is an illusionary question, which has no answer!

Love is friendship set on fire
Love is an ideal thing, marriage a real thing
To be in love is merely to be in a state of perceptual anesthesia.
Love is everything it's cracked up to be. That's why people are so cynical about it...It really is worth fighting for, risking everything for. And the trouble is, if you don't risk everything, you risk even more
Some say it's mysterious, magical, complex, difficult, imaginary, thought-provoking, inspirational, intuitional, joyous, immeasurable, ecstasy, and undefinable. Perhaps.
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Sometimes love is stronger than a man's convictions
Love is the master key that opens the gates of happiness
Maybe love is like luck. You have to go all the way to find it
The opposite of Love is fear. Think about it.
There is no fear in Love; but perfect love casts out fear. - Bible
God is love.
Love is loving someone without expecting anything in return; no judgments, no restrictions; no limitations; no expectations!

Love stretches your heart and makes you big inside
Love has no awareness of merit or demerit; it has no scale... Love loves; this is its nature
Love is like war: Easy to begin but hard to end.
Love consists in this, that two solitudes protect and touch and greet each other
Where love is, no room is too small.
Loves makes your soul crawl out from its hiding place
Love is the answer to "all" questions!
It is important to stand in Love, not fall into it.
Love is waking up to find the object of your affection in the dream you were having asleep on your shoulder.
Love is the irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired.
To love is to receive a glimpse of heaven
A love song is just a caress set to music
True Love is the nature of bliss.
Love is expressed when you are being someone who loves someone for who they are, not who you think they should be.
I was nauseous and tingly all over. . . I was either in Love or I had smallpox. - Woody Allen
Love seeks no cause beyond itself and no fruit; it is its own fruit, its own enjoyment. I love because I love; I love in order that I may love. - St. Bernard 1090-1153, French Theologian and Reformer
Teach only Love for that is what you are.
Love is a decision.
Could it be that Love is a story that can never be fully expressed?
Love is a bond or connection between two people that results in trust, intimacy, and an interdependence that enhances both partners.
Love is an act of endless forgiveness, a tender look which becomes a habit
Love is like a violin. The music may stop now and then, but the strings remain forever
Love is the only sane and satisfactory answer to the problem of human existence
Love is looking past imperfections in your partner and seeing the beautiful person inside. True love seeks the happiness and well being of your partner. Love expresses itself in the mutual respect you demonstrate to your partner.
In the final analysis, love is the only reflection of man's worth
Love doesn't make the world go round, love is what makes the ride worthwhile." - Elizabeth Browning
To love is to suffer. To avoid suffering one must not love. But then one suffers from not loving. Therefore to love is to suffer, not to love is to suffer. To suffer is to suffer. To be happy is to love. To be happy then is to suffer. But suffering makes one unhappy. Therefore, to be unhappy one must love, or love to suffer, or suffer from too much happiness. I hope you're getting this down.
To demonstrate Love. . . say, "I Love you" - outloud - at least once each day to someone you love. There is magic in these three little words. Saying "I love you" is the most beautiful gift you can give to your partner. These words are the most treasured a person can hear. To be different, say, "I Love you"

SOME KEYS TO HAPPINESS AND SUCCESS

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Try to end a quarrel.
Seek out a forgotten friend.Dismiss suspicion, and replace it with trust.

Write a love letter.
Share some treasure.
Give a soft answer.
Encourage youth.

Manifest your loyalty in word and deed.
Keep a promise.
Find the time.
Forgo a grudge.
Forgive an enemy.

Listen.
Apologize if you were wrong.
Try to understand.
Flout envy.
Examine your demands of others.

Think first of somebody else.
Appreciate.
Be kind.
Be gentle.
Laugh a little.
Laugh a little more.

Deserve confidence.
Take up arms against malice.
Express your gratitude..

LIVE EACH DAY,TOMORROW SELDOM COMES.

Welcome a stranger.
Gladden the heart of a child or a senior.
Take pleasure in the beauty and wonder of the earth.
Do a random act of kindness.
Speak your love.

If you use these keys to happiness
you can unlock the doors of success!

9 Tips in Life that lead to happiness

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9 Tips that Lead to Happiness

Are you truly happy? Do you even know what it means to be happy and what it takes to achieve happiness? These are important questions for anyone who is seeking happiness to ask themselves. I live my life to maintain my own happiness while trying my best to not cause unhappiness to anyone else. If you want to be happy you need to understand that you can be happy and that you should be happy. Many people make the mistake of believing that they don’t deserve happiness and accept their unhappy state as their destiny. The truth of the matter is that happiness, like anything else in life, needs to be nurtured. The following are a few tips that I follow to create happiness in my life.

Understand what it is that will make you happy. Everyone has unique requirements for attaining happiness and what makes one person happy may be very different from what makes someone else happy. Revel in your individuality and do not worry about whether or not your desires are comparable to those of your peers.
Make a plan for attaining goals that you believe will make you happy. Your mood will very likely increase as your pursue your goal because you will feel better about yourself for going after something you value.
Surround yourself with happy people. It is easy to begin to think negatively when you are surrounded by people who think that way. Conversely, if you are around people who are happy their emotional state will be infectious.
When something goes wrong try to figure out a solution instead of wallowing in self pity. Truly happy people don’t allow set backs to affect their mood because they know that with a little thought they can turn the circumstances back to their favor.
Spend a few minutes each day thinking about the things that make you happy. These few minutes will give you the opportunity to focus on the positive things in your life and will lead you to continued happiness.
It’s also important to take some time each day to do something nice for yourself. Whether you treat yourself to lunch, take a long, relaxing bath or simply spend a few extra minutes on your appearance you will be subconsciously putting yourself in a better mood.
Finding the humor in situations can also lead to happiness. While there are times that require you to be serious, when it is appropriate, find a way to make light of a situation that would otherwise make you unhappy.
Maintaining your health is another way to achieve happiness. Being overweight or not eating nutritious foods can have a negative effect on your mood. Additionally, exercise has been known to release endorphins that give you a feeling of happiness.
Finally, it is important to understand that you deserve happiness. Those who believe that they are not worthy of happiness may subconsciously sabotage their efforts to achieve happiness. If necessary, tell yourself each day that you deserve to be happy and remind yourself what steps you will take to achieve the happiness you desire.

Happiness is hard to define but most people are aware of whether they are happy or not. Many people believe that happiness is a form of luck and that some people are destined to be happy while others are destined to be unhappy. I try to incorporate the tips above into my life and have had great success in achieving happiness. The tips in this article are small but meaningful steps that you can take each day to lead you to true happiness.

FOR MARITAL HAPPINESS...

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For Marital Happiness

In a stable marriage, research shows that there are five times more positive communication than negative ones.

Do you want to get your relationship on the good side of that ratio? Here’s what happy couples do:

2. Share their joy, letting each other know when they are excited or delighted.

3. Show affection like touching each other or doing something thoughtful.

4. Accept and respect each other’s feelings, even when they don’t agree.

5. Listen without being defensive.

6. Express appreciation and display pride in each other.

7. Demonstrate empathy using words and facial expression to show they’re trying to understand.

8. Prove they care by checking in calling to ask how things are going.

9. Joke around by gently teasing, playing and having fun.

Be positive and cherish each other and your marriage will be happier, long lasting.

RECIPE FOR LOVE

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Recipe for Love

Ingredients

2 Hearts Full of Love
2 Heaping Cups of Kindness
2 Armfuls of Gentleness
2 Cups of Friendship
2 Cups of Joy
2 Big Hearts Full of Forgiveness
1 Lifetime of Togetherness
2 Minds Full of Tenderness

Method

Stir daily with Happiness, Humor and Patience.
Serve with Warmth and Compassion, Respect and Loyalty.

~ Author Unknown ~

TOP 12 INGREDIENTS OF HAPPINESS

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Here is a list of top 12 ingredients of happiness.They are given in reverse order.You can change the relative order of some of the ingredients, but they do fit into the list of top 12.

12. Altruism…doing nice things for people.

11. good health…this is number 11?

10. Perspective

9. Security(Money)

8. Love

7. Spirituality

6. Purpose

5. Courage

4. Humor

3. Proactivity

2. Optimism

and the #1 ingredient of happiness is………………………

Sense of Choice.

A PRAYER OF LOVE

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Dear Lord:

Because love is patient: Help me to be slow to judge, but quick to listen, hesitant to criticize, but eager to encourage, remembering your endless patience with me.

Because love is kind: Help my words to be gentle and my actions to be thoughtful. Remind me to smile and to say "Please" and "Thank You" because those little things still mean so much.

Because love does not envy or boast, and it is not proud: Help me have a heart that is humble and sees the good in others. May I celebrate and appreciate all that I have and all that I am, as well as doing the same for those around me.

Because love is not rude or self-seeking: Help me to speak words that are easy on the ear and on the heart. When I'm tempted to get wrapped up in my own little world, remind me there's a great big world out there full of needs and hurts.

Because love is not easily angered and keeps no record of wrongs: Help me to forgive others as you have forgiven me. When I want to hold onto a grudge, gently help me release it so I can reach out with a hand of love instead.

Because love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth: Help me stand up for what is right and good. May I defend the defenseless, and help the helpless. Show me how I can make a difference.

Because love always protects and always trusts: Help me to be a refuge for those around me.When the world outside is harsh and cold, may my heart be a place of acceptance and warmth.

Finally, because love always perseveres: Help my heart continually beat with love for You and others. AMEN.

"I LOVE YOU" IN DIFFERENT LANGUAGES

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Language I love you
Afrikaans ek het jou lief / ek's lief vir jou
Albanian të dua
Aleut Txin Yaktakuq
Alsatian Ich hàb dich gär / Ich hàb lieb fir dich
Amharic እወድሻለሁ (ɨwəddɨʃalləhu - to a man)
እወድሃለሁ (ɨwəddɨhalləhu - to a woman)
Arabic
(Modern Standard) to a man (uħib:ukato) أُحِبُّكَ
to a woman - (uħib:uki) أُحِبُّكِ
Arabic
(Egyptian Colloquial) to a man - (ana uħibbuk) ٲنَا ٱحِبُّك
to a woman - (ana baħibbik) ٲنَا بَحَِّك
Armenian (Eastern) Սիրում եմ քեզ: (Sirum em kez)
Aromanian ti voi
Asturian quiérote
Avallaen Sample text in Avallaen (vüväloiek dü quuo)
Azerbaijani Mən səni sevirəm
Basque maite zaitut
Belarusian Я цябе кахаю (Ja ciabe kakhaju)
Bengali আমি তোমাকে ভালোবাসি (āmi tomāke bhālobāshi)
Breton karout a ran ac'hanout, da garout a ran, me az kar
Bulgarian обичам те (običam te)
Catalan t'estimo
Cebuano gihigugma ko ikaw
Chamorro Hu guiaya hao
Cherokee ᎬᎨᏳᎯ (gvgeyuhi)
Chinese 我愛你 [我爱你]
ngóh oi néih (Cantonese)
ngai2 ai ngi2 (Hakka)
wǒ ài nǐ (Mandarin)
ngu2 eh nong2 (Shanghainese)
gua2 ai3 li2 (Taiwanese)
Cimbrian Ich liibe-dich
Cornish My a'th kar
Corsican amu tè / ti tengu caru
Croatian volim te
Czech miluji tě
Danish jeg elsker dig
Dutch Ik hou van je (inf) Ik hou van jou / Ik hou van u (frm)
Efik Mmema fi
Esperanto mi amas vin
Estonian ma armastan sind
Faroese Eg elski teg
Fijian Au lomani iko, Au lomani iko vakalevu
Finnish Rakastan sinua
Frisian Ick heb di leev
Frisian (Saterfrisian) Iek hääb die ljoo
Frisian (West) Ik hâld fan dy
Finnish minä rakastan sinua
French Je t'aime, Je t'adore
Friulian Ti vuei ben
Galician ámote / quérote
Georgian მიყვარხარ (mikʼvarxar)
German (Standard) Ich liebe Dich
German (Bayerisch) I lieb di
German (Bernisch) Ig liebe di
German (Hessisch) Isch habb disch libb
German (Kölsch) Isch han dich leev
German (Pfäzisch) Isch liewe disch
German (Schwyzerdütsch) Ich liäbä Dich
German (Vorarlbergerisch) I liab di!
Greek Σ᾿ ἀγαπῶ (Saghapó) - inf Σᾶς ἀγαπῶ (Sas aghapó) - frm
Greenlandic Asavakit
Guaraní rojhayhû
Hawaiian Aloha Au Ia ʻOe, Aloha No Au Ia ʻOe
Hebrew (Ani Ohev Otach - to woman) אני אוהב אותך Click here to hear this phrase
(Ani Ohevet Otcha - to man) אני אוהבת אותך Click here to hear this phrase
Hindi मैं तुम्हैं बहुत चाहता हुँ (Maiṅ tumhaiṅ bahut cāhatā hūṅ) said by men
मैं तुम्हैं प्यार करता हुँ (Maiṅ tumhaiṅ pyār kartā hūṅ) said by men
मैं तुमसे बहुत चाहती हुँ (Maiṅ tumse bahut cāhatī hūṅ) said by women
मैं तुमसे प्यार करती हुँ (Maiṅ tumse pyār kartī hūṅ) said by women
Hungarian Szeretlek
Icelandic Ég elska þig
Ilocano Ay-ayatenka, Ipatpategka
Indonesian Saya mencintaimu
Inuktitut ᓇᒡᓕᒋᕙᒋᑦ (Nagligivagit)
Irish (Gaelic) Gráím thú (I love you)
Tugaim cion duit (I give you affection)
Tá cion agam ort (I have affection for you)
Tá mé ceanúil ort (I have affection for you)
Tá grá agam duit (I have love for you)
Táim i ngrá leat (I'm in love with you)
Tá mo chroí istigh ionat (My heart is within you)
Ádhraím thú (I adore you)
Italian Ti amo
Japanese 好きです (suki desu) 好きだ (suki da)
好きだよ (suki dayo) 大好きです (daisuki desu)
愛してるよ (aishiteru yo)
好きよ (suki yo) 愛してるわ (aishiteru wa) - said by women only
hear these phrases
Javanese aku tresnasliramu
Jèrriais J't'aime / J't'adouthe
Kazakh Мен сені сүйемін (Men seni süyemin)
Мен сені жақсы көремін (Men seni jaqsı köremin) - inf
Kirundi/Kinyarwanda Ndagukunda
Klamath moo ?ams ni stinta
Klallam nəsƛ̕éʔ cxʷ
Korean 사랑해 (sarang hae)
Kurdish Ez di hesdikm / Xoş tem dewê
Ladino (Te amo) טי אמו
Latin Te amo / Amo te
Latvian Es tevi mīlu
Lithuanian aš myliu tave
Lojban mi do prami
Low Saxon ik hou van di
Luo aheri
Luxembourgish ech hunn dech gäer / ech léiwe dech
Macedonian Те сакам Click here to hear this phrase (Te sakam), Те љубам Click here to hear this phrase (Te lyubam) - inf
Ве сакам Click here to hear this phrase (Ve sakam), Ве љубам Click here to hear this phrase (Ve lyubam) - frm
Malay Saya sayang kamu / Aku cintakan kau
Malayalam ഞാന് നിന്നെ പ്രേമിക്കുന്നു (nyān ninne prēmikkunnu)
Maltese Inħobbok / Inħobbok hafna
Manchu Bi shimbe hairambi
Manx Ta graih aym ort
Māori Kei te aroha au i a koe
Marathi माझ तुइयावर प्रेम आहे (Mājha tuiyāvar prem āhe)
Mi'kmaq kesalul
Mongolian Би чамд хайртай (Bi chamd khairtai)
Ndebele Ngiyakuthanda
Northern Sotho ke a go rata
Norwegian Jeg elsker deg (Bokmål) Eg elskar deg (Nynorsk)
Occitan T'aimi. T'estimi
Old English ic lufie þe (West Saxon) ic lufie þec (Northumbrian)
Persian (ʻasheghetam) عاشقتم
(dūset dāram - used in poetry and songs) دوست دارم Click here to hear this phrase
Polish kocham cię
Portuguese amo-te, eu te amo, eu gosto de você, eu amo você
eu adoro você (I adore you)
eu tenho carinho por você (I have affection for you)
Romanian te iubesc
Russian я тебя люблю (ja teb'a l'ubl'u)
Samoan Ou te alofa ia te oe / Ou te alofa i oe
Scots Ah loove ye
Scottish Gaelic tha gaol agam ort
Serbian Волим те (Volim te)
Sesotho Ke a o rata
Slovak Milujem ťa
Slovenian Ljubim te (m/f), Rad te imam (m) Rada te imam (f)
Somali waan ku jecelahay
Setswana ke a go rata
Shona ndinokuda
Sioux techihhila
SiSwati ngiyakutsandza
Spanish Te amo / Te quiero
Swahili ninakupenda
Swedish Jag älskar dig
Tagalog Iniibig kita / Mahal Kita / Minamahal Kita
Iniirog kita (old fashioned)
Thai ผมรักคุณ (phom rak khun - male speaker)
ฉันรักคุณ (chan rak khun - female speaker)
Tibetan ང་ཁྱེད་རང་ལ་དགའ་པོ་ཡོད་
(nga kayrâng-la gawpo yö)
Tok Pisin Mi lavim yu
Tsez Даьр ми йетих (Där mi yetix) >f
Даьр ми этих (Där mi etix) >m
Tshivenḓa ngiyakutsandza
Turkish seni seviyorum
Ukrainian я тебе кохаю (ja tebe koxaju)
Urdu میں آپ سے محبت کَرتا ہوں
m (mein ap say muhabat karta hoon)
میں آپ سے محبت کرتی ہوں
f (mein ap say muhabat karte hoon)
Uzbek Men seni sevaman
Vietnamese Em yêu anh (f>m) Anh yêu em (m>f)
Volapük läfob oli
Walloon dji t'veû vol'tî
Welsh dw i'n dy garu di rwy'n dy garu di
Xhosa Ndiya kuthanda
Xitsonga ndza ku rhandza
Yiddish (Ikh hob dikh lieb) איך האָב דיך ליב (Ikh libe dikh) איך ליבע דיך
Zulu Ngiyakuthanda

HAPPINESS IS NOW

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Happiness is now

As long as you are preparing to be happy, you will not be. If you continue to see happiness as some distant goal to be reached, you will not experience it.

Happiness is now. The only time you can ever experience it is the moment that you are in.

Happiness is unconditional. When you put conditions on happiness, it immediately disappears.

Happiness makes no judgments or demands. When you focus on judging others and making demands of them, it drives happiness away from your life.

Though happiness is simple and uncomplicated, it is at the same time profound and sophisticated. For when you allow yourself to be truly happy, the positive energy can reach into every corner of your life.

Set aside the complaints, excuses, conditions and demands, and make a place for happiness in your world. Be happy, and you'll discover a whole new level of life's richness.

-- Ralph Marston

http://greatday.com/motivate/070305.html

ABC of LOVE

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ABC of LOVE

Age does not protect you from love but love to some extent protects you from
age.

Better to have loved and lost, than to have never loved at all.

Choose the one who loves you, and not whom you love.

Don't forget to love yourself.

Everyone admits that love is wonderful and necessary, yet no one agrees on
just what it is.

For one human being to love another: that is perhaps the most difficult of
our tasks; the ultimate, the last test and proof, the work for which all
other work is but preparation.

Gravitation can not be held responsible for people falling in love.

He who loves 50 people has 50 woes; he who loves no one has no woes.

If you judge people, you have no time to love them.

Just three words, "I Love You" , but they mean world to everybody.

Kindness is love in disguise.

Love does not consist in gazing at each other, but in looking outward
together in the same direction.

Mature love says:"I need you because I love you."
Immature love says: "I love you because I need you."

Nothing can be as beautiful as falling in Love.

Offerings of love should be made without any expectations.

Precious possessions that a man can ever have, is a woman's heart.

Quotes are peoples way to express their experience of love.

Rose is the symbol of love.

Set me as a seal upon thy heart, as a seal upon thine arm: for love is
strong as death.

There is only one happiness in life, to love and to be loved.

Usually a man in love cannot be harsh.

Victory of a heart is the most priced possession.

Within you, I lose myself; Without you, I find myself, searching to be lost
again.

X-ray can not reveal a love struck heart.

Yes, is the ultimate word for love.

Zodiac signs are insignificant when it comes to love

ABC of Happiness

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ABC of Happiness

A - Accept
Accept others for who they are and for the choices
they've made even if you have difficulty understanding
their beliefs, motives,or actions.

B - Break Away
Break away from everything that stands in the way of
what you hope to accomplish with your life.

C - Create
Create a family of friends whom you can share your
hopes, dreams, sorrows,and happiness with.

D - Decide
Decide that you'll be successful and happy
come-what-may, and good things will find you.
The roadblocks are only minor obstacles along the way.

E - Explore
Explore and experiment. The world has much to offer,
and you have much to give. And every time you try
something new, you'll learn more about yourself.

F - Forgive
Forgive and forget. Grudges only weigh you down and
inspire unhappiness and grief. Soar above it, and
remember that everyone makes mistakes.

G - Grow
Leave the childhood monsters behind. They can no
longer hurt you or stand in your way.

H - Hope
Hope for the best and never forget that anything is
possible as long as you remain dedicated to the task.

I - Ignore
Ignore the negative voice inside your head. Focus
instead on your goals and remember your accomplishments.
Your past success is only a small linking of what
the future holds.

J - Journey
Journey to new worlds, new possibilities, by remaining
open-minded. Try to learn something new every day,
and you'll grow.

K - Know
Know that no matter how bad things seem, they'll
always get better. The warmth of spring always follows
the harshest winter.

L - Love
Let love fill your heart instead of hate. When hate
is in your heart, there's room for nothing else, but when
love is in your heart, there's room for endless
happiness.

M - Manage
Manage your time and your expenses wisely, and you'll
suffer less stress and worry. Then you'll be able to
focus on the important things in life.

N - Notice
Never ignore the poor, infirm, helpless, weak, or
suffering. Offer your assistance when possible, and
always your kindness and understanding.

O - Open
Open your eyes and take in all the beauty around you.
Even during the worst of times, there's still much to
be thankful for.

P - Play
Never forget to have fun along the way. Success means
nothing without happiness.

Q - Question
Ask many questions, because you're here to learn.

R - Relax
Refuse to let worry and stress rule your life, and
remember that things always have a way of working out
in the end.

S - Share
Share your talent, skills, knowledge, and time with
others. Everything that you invest in others
will return to you many times over.

T - Try
Even when your dreams seem impossible to reach, try
anyway. You'll be amazed by what you can accomplish.

U - Use
Use your gifts to your best ability. Talent that's
wasted has no value. Talent that's used will bring
unexpected rewards.

V - Value
Value the friends and family members who've supported
and encouraged you, and be there for them as well.

W - Work
Work hard every day to be the best person you can be,
but never feel guilty if you fall short of your goals.
Every sunrise offers a second chance.

X - X-Ray
Look deep inside the hearts of those around you and
you'll see the goodness and beauty within.

Y - Yield
Yield to commitment. If you stay on track and remain
dedicated, you'll find success at the end of the road.

Z - Zoom
Zoom to a happy place when bad memories or sorrow
rears its ugly head. Let nothing interfere with your
goals. Instead, focus on your abilities, your
dreams, and a brighter tomorrow.

A LOVE SHAYARI

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Night and day
My mind never strays,
Thoughts of you cloud my mind
Memories replay, time after time

The times we shared
And how much you cared
I will never forget.
Those times, I do not regret

Just wanted you to know
Although I never let it show
You will always remain in my heart
And you are in my thoughts
even though we are Apart..

HAPPINESS

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Happy are those who know they
 are spiritually poor;
the Kingdom of heaven belongs
 to them!

Happy are those who mourn;
 God will comfort them!

Happy are those who are humble;
 they will receive what God has
   promised!

Happy are those whose greatest
   desired is to do what God
   requires;
 God will satisfy them fully!

Happy are those who are merciful
   to others;
 God will be merciful to them!

Happy are the pure in heart;
 they will see God!

Happy are those who work for peace;
 God will call them his children!

Happy are those who are
   persecuted because they do
   what God requires;
 the Kingdom of heaven belongs
   to them!

Matthew 5, verses 3 to 10.

True Happiness

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True happiness
Is not a mental hallucination.
True happiness
Is not a complacent feeling.
True happiness
Is the spontaneous feeling of joy
That comes from knowing
You are doing the right thing
And leading a divine life.

Osho on Love

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Osho on Love:

'LOVE deeply, love without jealousy, love blissfully and help each other to be more meditative. Because what else can we do and what can we share? Man is born naked without anything. Love should be the beginning of sharing something. Your love becomes a spiritual phenomenon.'

'WHEN you love a person all fear disappears. And when you are afraid all love disappears.'

'WHEN you love, you have to become nobody. If you remain somebody, then love never happens. When you love a person - even for a single moment love happens and flows between two persons- There are two nothingness, not two persons. If you have ever had any experience of love, you can understand it.'

'WHEN two lovers are making love, and if they are both no-selves, nothingness, then a spontaneous pleasurable sensation happens. Then their body energy, their whole being, loses all identity; they are no more themselves - they have fallen into abyss. But this can happen only for a moment: again they regain, again they start clinging. That's why people become afraid in love.'

'ONE becomes scared of love, then people remain satisfied with bodily love and they believe this to be love in its entirity.'

'WHEN you want to love God, you have to be without mask. You have to drop all deceptions. You have to be authentically whatsoever you are; to be choiceless, whatsoever you are. In that primal innocence, God descends.'

Love:What is it?

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Throughout the history of mankind, we as a world culture have made love out to be mysterious, complex, difficult, and undefinable. It’s the subject of endless poems and literary works. There is an enormous amount of material available out there about love, a lot of it contradictory.

We’ve been given the impression that to define love is near to impossible. Maybe there’s a fear that if we define it, it would somehow be less powerful...less impactful...less exhilarating. Maybe we like the mystery of it. But is it really that complicated? Perhaps the complications surrounding love come from all “stuff” we add on to this powerful emotion. Lets drop all the baggage surrounding relationships and define what it is we are experiencing in the moment of love.

Basic Components of Love

What do you feel when you love someone? If distilled down to it’s core components, what would those be? Yes, love is an emotion, a feeling, a wanting, and a “being”. We know it feels good, but what specific feelings, wantings, and beings are present when we feel love? Here are the common denominators of love...

Love is Accepting.
Acceptance is labeling someone as "okay" and having no particular desire to change them. Who they are is perfectly fine with you. You pose no condition on whether you will love them or not. This is call unconditional love. When your love IS conditional, the moment they step outside your set of conditions, love evaporates.

Love is Appreciating.
Appreciation is one step beyond acceptance. Its when your focus is on what you like about another. We look at them and feel this sweeping appreciation for who they are, their joy, their insights, their humor, their companionship, etc. When someone says they are "in love" with another, they mean their appreciation is so enormous for this person that it consumes their every thought.

Love is Wanting Another to Feel Good.
We want those we love to be happy, safe, healthy, and fulfilled. We want them to feel good in all ways, physically, mentally and emotionally.

happiness:What is it?

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Happiness: What is it?

Happiness and unhappiness are opposite sides of a judgement about your situation. If you judge your situation as bad for you, that's unhappiness. If you judge a situation as good for you, that's happiness.

The experience of happiness is one of those general terms we use to say, "I feel good emotionally." People use different terms to describe what feels good for them. For someone it might be excitement, passion, exhilaration, fulfillment, freedom, feeling fully alive with inspiration and joy. For another it might be more peaceful, content, capable, hopeful, satisfied, and comfortable feeling. Whatever you call it, it just feels darn good.

Our natural state of being is to be happy. When you remove all the uncomfortable emotions we humans can experience (and they are numerous), you're left with happiness. So it's easiest to define happiness by what it is not.

Methods of Love

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Methods of Love

Kiss on the ear = "I'm Horny"

Kiss on the cheek = "We're Friends"

Kiss on the hand = "I Adore You"

Kiss on the shoulder = "I Want You"

Kiss on the lips = "I Love You"

Kiss on everywhere else = "Let's get Busy"

Holding hands = "We Can Learn To Love Each Other"

A wink = "Let's Get It On"

Slap on the butt = "Watch Out"

Playing with the ear = "I Can't Live Without You"

Arms around the waist = "I Love You To Much To Let Go"

Pulling hair on head = "Tell Me You Love Me"

Looking into each other's eyes = "Let's Get Romantic"

Holding on tight = "Don't Let Go"

For Love :11 Rules to Always Follow:

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For Love :11 Rules to Always Follow:

Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.

When you say, "I love you," mean it.

When you say, "I'm sorry," look the person in the eye.

Believe in love at first sight.

Love deeply and passionately. You may get hurt, but it's the only way to live life completely.

Don't judge people by their relatives, or by the life they were born into.

Marry a person you love to talk to. As you get older, his/her conversational skills will be even more important.

Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer.

Don't just listen to what someone is saying. Listen to why they are saying it.

Don't trust anyone who doesn't close his/her eyes when you kiss.

Remember that the best relationship is one in which your love for each other exceeds your need for each other.

20 SECRETS TO HAPPINESS

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Return everything you borrow.

Stop blaming other people.

Live within your means and within your seams.

Be humble.

Listen more; talk less.

Every day, do something nice and try not to get caught.

Strive for excellence, not perfection.

Be on time.

Don't criticize anyone for 24 hours.

Be kind to other people.

Be even kinder to unkind people.

Take time to be alone.

Admit it when you make a mistake.

Understand and accept that life isn't always fair.

Let someone cut ahead of you in line.

Don't argue.

Know when to say something.

Know when to keep your mouth shut.

Don't make excuses.

Don't sweat the small stuff.

20 Secrets to Happiness

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20 Secrets to Happiness

Return everything you borrow.

Stop blaming other people.

Live within your means and within your seams.

Be humble.

Listen more; talk less.

Every day, do something nice and try not to get caught.

Strive for excellence, not perfection.

Be on time.

Don't criticize anyone for 24 hours.

Be kind to other people.

Be even kinder to unkind people.

Take time to be alone.

Admit it when you make a mistake.

Understand and accept that life isn't always fair.

Let someone cut ahead of you in line.

Don't argue.

Know when to say something.

Know when to keep your mouth shut.

Don't make excuses.

Don't sweat the small stuff.

HAPPINESS

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Happiness

We convince ourselves that life will be better after we get married, have a baby, then another. Then we are frustrated that the kids aren't old enough and we'll be more content when they are. After that, we're frustrated that we have teenagers to deal with. We will certainly be happy when they are out of that stage.
We tell ourselves that our life will be complete when our spouse gets his or her act together, when we get a nicer car, are able to go on a nice vacation, when we retire.
The truth is, there's no better time to be happy than right now. If not now, when? Your life will always be filled with challenges. It's best to admit this to yourself and decide to be happy anyway. One of my favorite quotes comes from Alfred D Souza. He said, "For a long time it had seemed to me that life was about to begin - real life. But there was always some obstacle in the way, Something to be gotten through first, some unfinished business, time still to be served, or a debt to be paid. Then life would begin. At last it dawned on me that these obstacles were my "life".
This perspective has helped me to see that there is no way to happiness. Happiness is the way. So, treasure every moment that you have and treasure it more because you shared it with someone special, special enough to spend your time...and remember that time waits for no one.
So, stop waiting until you finish school, until you go back to school, until you lose ten pounds, until you gain ten pounds, until you have kids, until your kids leave the house, until you start work, until you retire, until you get married, until you get divorced, until Friday night, until Sunday morning, until you get a new car or home, until your car or home is paid off, until spring, until summer, until fall, until winter, until you are off welfare, until the first or fifteenth, until your song comes on, until you've had a drink, until you've sobered up, until you die, until you are born again to decide that there is no better time than right now to be happy.
Happiness is a journey, not a destination.

Author Unknown

Recipe For Happiness

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2 Heaping cups of patience
1 Heart full of love
2 Hands full of generosity
Dash of laughter
1 Head full of understanding
Sprinkle generously with kindness
Add plenty of faith and mix well.
Spread over a period of a lifetime
And serve everyone you meet.

HAPPINESS VIDEO

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Happiness - The best home videos are here

HABITS OF HAPPINESS; VIDEO BY MATHEW RICHARDS

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HAPPINESS IS OUR BIRTH RIGHT

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Happiness is our birth right. Here are a few Pointers/reminders to create happiness and live a life of fulfilLment:

Look for happiness in the right place
We spend most of our time looking for happiness in all the wrong places. If you simply look within, you can discover the source of unlimited happiness now. Also, if you examine those things that you think make you happy, I think you will find this pattern inside. When you satisfy a particular desire, even temporarily, your mind gets quieter and the happiness that is your natural state is able to shine through a little more. If you allow yourself to catch this process as it unfolds inside of you, you will learn to take happiness directly from it's source within you and you will enjoy everything that you have or do more fully.
Stop rushing past life
Have the attitude of, "I have all the time in the world," even when working on a deadline. You will not only feel happier but you will get things done more easily and quickly. If you catch yourself rushing, simply let go of pushing yourself as best you can and allow yourself to take one step or one action at a time.
Let go!
This is the core of the Sedona Method! Most of us spend way too much time holding onto what was. If you let go of what was, and stop dragging it into the present or projecting it into the future, you can enjoy what is now.
Accept what is
When we want to change what is, we suffer. If you just let go of wanting to change what is as best you can, even for a moment, you are immediately happier. Plus, you no longer have to hold onto your problems in order to change them, and they often change or clear up all by themselves.
Give from your heart
The giver is truly blessed. Whenever you give without wanting anything in return, even if it is just an understanding ear, you are instantly happier. The key is in not expecting to get anything from giving. If you want to get something back, you are not truly giving and you miss the blessing of happiness that true giving brings.
Give love instead of trying to get it
If you look for others to give you love, you will often be unhappy. However, if you allow yourself to be as loving as you can for no reason at all, you will instantly feel happier. As Lester Levenson used to say, "Love, love, love and you will always be happy."
Be present with what is
If you are simply present with whatever you are experiencing now, as opposed to what was or what might be, you will find there is no end to your happiness. As best you can, take breaks from trying to assign meaning and a history to the sounds, sensations and pictures that arise in your awareness. Another way to say this is to welcome whatever arises in your consciousness as best you can.
Live life wide open
Even if there are supposed threats around you, when you close off from your environment, you are only locking in suffering and holding away happiness. The more you simply open inside you let the pain you already have out and you become transparent to the pain that appears to be coming from outside of you. When you are truly open the pain can't stick to you.
Pick agreements
If you look for things to agree with just as they are, you can find them, even at your darkest hour. Every time you pick an agreement with what is in your experience, you experience more happiness.
Expand your awareness
As you expand your awareness, you expand your ability to feel happy. You can do this quite simply by allowing your awareness to be as contracted as it is and as expanded as it is. The more you embrace both sides, the more you can recognize the vastness that is your basic nature.
Accept the possibility of happiness now
Most of us are waiting for something to change in order to give us an excuse to be happy. If we decide it is possible to be happy, whether or not that something ever changes, we can become happy now.